My girlfriend Rachelle and I got married on April 3rd. 🙂
We’ve been together for more than 8 years, so you could say we took our time to reach this point. We met at the first Conscious Growth Workshop in 2009 – very briefly – but we didn’t get romantically involved till January 2010, a few months after Erin and I separated.
Since Rachelle is from Winnipeg, Canada, we’ve been in a long-distance relationship for all of this time. She’d typically stay with me in Las Vegas for 6 months total out of each year (the legal limit), usually for 2-3 months at a stretch and just on tourist visas. Then I’d visit her in Canada, or we’d travel to other countries together (about a dozen so far) for other parts of the year. But we’d still spend 4-5 months apart most years, and during those months we’d keep in touch via Skype and FaceTime.
As odd as it may sound, that worked very well for us. It was hard being apart for long stretches, but we got used to it. We’ve hugged and kissed each other hello and goodbye at more airports than I can remember. Sometimes we missed each other a lot, and we’d count down the days till we’d see each other again. But we also had lots of freedom to explore our lives as individuals. There was something extra special about finally seeing each other again after being apart for so long. It was like living in two...
After decades of running as my primary form of exercise, I decided to get into weight training last year. My main motivation was curiosity. I wanted to see if I could build my strength consistently if I made an effort to do so. I approached this as another deep dive exploration.
It’s been nice to do a deep dive that doesn’t involve depriving myself of food or sleep, in contrast to last year’s 40-day water fasting experience. 🙂Previous Strength Training Experience
The last time I did a significant amount of strength training was around 2003 when I did some group training at a private gym for several months. These were grueling workouts that included a 15-minute spinning warm-up, a 2-hour weight training session with dozens of pyramiding sets and sometimes circuit training, and a 15-minute spinning cooldown. I did these workouts about twice a week on average.
I got significantly stronger during that time, but I didn’t like the workouts after a while. The trainer was into the Body for Life approach, and I found that style of training too time consuming relative to the results I got. It was often exhausting to do dozens of sets for every workout. And carving out time for a 2.5-hour workout multiple times per week wasn’t easy. It was nice to try this for a while, but I didn’t find it sustainable. I couldn’t see myself doing such workouts on a long-term basis.
I experimented on and off with other strength training approaches over the...
Last year a friend sent me a copy of the book Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships, which is about making love without orgasm. The book goes into detail about the depleting and mentally unbalancing effects of orgasm (whether solo or with a partner) and presents an approach to orgasm-free sex called karezza. The same recommendation is made regardless of gender.
I’ve also seen lots of friends (almost exclusively male) work on personal growth challenges related to orgasms, masturbation, and porn addiction. Some have found help from the website Your Brain on Porn. A number have undertaken “no fap” challenges with varying degrees of success. Some have sung the praises of going masturbation-free or orgasm-free for months at a time, claiming it gives them more vitality, energy, and/or ambition.
There are also some CGC members helping each other work on various challenges related to this, supporting each other as they go along.
Additionally, from the emails I’ve received over the years, I know that many of my readers struggle with porn addiction and other sexual imbalances, often noting how these negative habits impact their productivity.
I’ve largely sat on the sidelines while watching people tackle these challenges, not feeling like I have much to offer them in the way of help or support. The main reason is that I haven’t been able to connect the dots between such reported experiences and my own sexual experiences. While reading Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow, for instance, I felt disconnected from the...
One thing I love about doing deep dives into different skill sets is that it helps me gain a fresh perspective on other parts of life. Lately I’ve been doing a deep dive into audio editing to improve the quality of the course videos I’m developing, and I wanted to share some insights about how one aspect of audio editing applies to personal growth.
If you think about it, balancing your life is a lot like doing EQ (equalization) on audio. The purpose of both is to create a pleasing result.Low-Cut (High Pass) Filter
A good way to begin is to apply a low-cut (high pass) filter to remove some of the lower frequencies.
Can you identify certain frequencies that just don’t belong in your life?
What frequencies don’t support you? What frequencies would drag you down if you allowed them in?
This may include cutting addictions and really bad habits. This could include a commitment not to wallow in self-pity. This could mean not engaging in violent or destructive behavior.
You’ve probably cut some of these lower frequencies already, but are there any more you’d like to cut?
To get the balance right here will take some experimenting. If you cut off too much from the low end, you remove some of the richness and color from your life. But if you allow too much on this end, it can muddy your experience of life, and other frequencies...
A common mistake for personal growth newbies is to wrap one’s self-esteem into short-term results. This often leads to self-blame and excess worry when results are below expectations.
If we use the lenses of truth, love, and power (our fundamental growth principles), we can see why beating yourself up for mistakes and failure is an ineffective approach that doesn’t actually help you grow.The Truth Lens
When viewed through the truth lens, we can readily see why beating ourselves up for mistakes will only make things worse. Since all input serves as a form of programming for our brains, it’s predictable that negative self-talk, especially when it becomes habitual, will serve to lower our future performance. We’re essentially programming ourselves to perform poorly when we use negative self-talk. We behave like a computer that installs a virus to slow itself down.
When you make mistakes, blaming yourself as an individual isn’t a very useful way to address problems. Problems could have been caused by circumstances outside of your control. Even if you made a mistake due to ignorance or poor performance, it’s more intelligent to view such a mistake as a software problem. Something in your thinking or behavior caused the problem, and therefore your best bet is to work on improving your thoughts and behaviors (i.e. your mental software), so you can avoid similar problems in the future.
As a human being with a human brain, you’re a learning machine. There isn’t much value in a learning machine that programs itself to lower...
For 2018 we’ve changed the time of our Conscious Growth Club group video coaching calls from 10am to 7am Pacific time on Thursdays. We’ll be testing this new call time for a month or two, and if it works well, we’ll lock it in for the rest of the year. I’m pretty sure we’ll stick with 7am for the rest of the year though.
We have some pretty active members in Asia, so this makes the coaching call times more accessible to those members, basically putting the middle of the night over the Pacific Ocean. It’s also reasonable for most of our members in the Americas and Europe.
We did our first call at this time today, and it went very well. I’m definitely a morning person and love getting up at 5am and going for a morning run, so 7am is a great peak time for me to be doing these calls.
CGC currently has 97 members in the Early Access group (99 if you count Rachelle and me). I still expect to do the full launch in March of this year, and I’m currently aiming for March 9 to 23 for our launch window. That’s still tentative for now, but I’m looking to lock in the launch dates soon.
In the second half of January, I’ll also record and publish our first full video course to the CGC member portal, which will be on setting and prioritizing goals.
We’ve built some terrific momentum in CGC during the past 8+ months, and...
For 2017 I invested more than $10K to participate in private online communities (more than $15K if you include the associated travel and related expenses). For 2018 my investment has already exceeded $30K, and I’m looking to bump it to $40-50K within the next several months.
In terms of the value I received last year, these have been among the best investments I’ve ever made. My business income doubled from one fiscal year to the next, and the future is looking brighter than ever. If I’d invested these same funds in Bitcoin at the start of the 2017, the returns wouldn’t have been as good. I expect the same will be true this year too, even if Bitcoin has another stellar year.
Why? What’s so great about private communities? Can’t you find free communities for just about anything?
You absolutely can find free communities such as Facebook groups or online forums for all sorts of interests. I’m very familiar with the free options since I’ve been immersed in this space for more than two decades. In 2006 I founded a popular personal growth forum that attracted 50K members and more than a million posts over its 5-year lifetime. Years prior I founded a popular indie game developer community that’s still running today. And I’ve participated in many other free online communities over the years, going all the way back to 1994 with a local dial-up BBS community that also hosted in-person meetups.
Free communities can be very good, and the better ones can...
For our next wild experiment, we opened a 24/7 always-on video chat room in Conscious Growth Club yesterday morning. I’ve been wanting to try something like this for a long time, so our members could pop in, connect, and talk to each other live whenever they want – and without my having to host any calls. I’m calling it the CGC Watercooler just as a placeholder name, but we’re discussing other names like the CGC Lounge, CGC Campfire, or for Harry Potter fans… the Room of Requirement.
I love that whenever I want now, I can pop in and chat live with any members that are hanging around our virtual watercooler. Maybe sometimes it will be empty, and sometimes there will be 5-10 people in there having an interesting conversation.
I let everyone know this is experimental for now, and it seems to be going well so far. I hung out with a few of our members when we first opened it and chatted with them for more than an hour.
This is a nice bridge between our regular video coaching calls and our discussion forums. It makes it easier for our members to connect socially and get to know each other. And it’s great for people who want more of that human connection – more energy flow and less friction for people who’d rather chat live than type messages to each other.
It’s going to be fun to explore what we can do with this in the weeks ahead. I can...
In Conscious Growth Club we’re doing a special 10-day creative challenge from Monday, November 27 to Wednesday, December 6. My goal for this particular challenge is to create 10 opt-in bonuses for my website’s email list in the next 10 days.
Partly I’m doing this to add better incentives for readers of my blog to opt-in to my mailing list, which makes sense as we build towards our full CGC launch in early 2018. CGC has evolved into my main outlet for helping people these days, and I expect that to continue for the foreseeable future. So improving opt-ins for the email list is a wise choice. It’s a good pathway for inviting more growth-oriented people into the inner circle, which has been thriving for the past several months while we’ve been in Early Access mode.
I’m also doing this as a personal growth challenge. Normally I dislike deadlines, but I have to admit they can be very effective for me. So I want to test myself to be creative on tight deadlines by committing to 10 small creative works in 10 days.
I’m announcing this challenge here on my blog too since I’ll be publishing something new each day, so for the next 10 days, you’ll begin seeing various freebies offered if you join my email list. If you’re already on the email list, I’ll share all of these freebies with existing subscribers after the challenge is over, so you don’t have to opt-in to the same list 10x...
As someone shared on yesterday’s coaching call in Conscious Growth Club, AppSumo.com is offering a Black Friday special on a lifetime subscription to brain.fm today, so it’s $37 instead of $149.
I’m not an affiliate. I’m just a fan of brain.fm. I first tried this service in early October after a fellow CGC member recommended it, and I’ve been using it nearly every day since then. I was able to upgrade my previous subscription to this lifetime offer this morning, so I took advantage of this deal myself.
Brain.fm is an online service that streams algorithmically generated music or ambient sounds to help you focus, relax, or sleep. Brain.fm appears to be the next level beyond binaural beats in terms of how effective it is at synchronizing my brain to a highly focused and alert state. It’s great for productivity, especially if you like being in a contented yet stimulated mood while you work.
My favorite brain.fm sessions for focusing are the electronic music, thunder, rain, and beach tracks. I usually feel very focused about 10-20 minutes after starting. Although there are a bunch of different tracks to choose from, I favor the electronic music track about 60% of the time, mainly because I find that it works the best for me.
For relaxation and sleep, I think brain.fm is just okay is terms of effectiveness, although I haven’t used those aspects as much. I don’t have sleep issues, so maybe you’d find it more helpful if you have insomnia.
Jeff Walker just released his Product Launch Blueprint, which includes an 18-page PDF and a training video. This walks you through the process that Jeff uses for his million-dollar online launches. You can get it now for free at this link:
This is Lesson 3 of the Launch Workshop, which is still free for now, but only for a few more days. You’ll just need to opt-in to access the training materials.
The PDF is very detailed and beautifully laid out. It breaks the launch process into a series of mind maps, so you can see how all the pieces of a successful launch fit together. It’s a very nice visual guide in my opinion, so you may want to print it out as well.
Next week Jeff opens enrollment for his advanced Product Launch Formula 2018 class, but for the next few days these video lessons and PDF Guides are free.
It’s best if you watch the video while you go through the Product Launch Blueprint PDF since they’re meant to go together.
You can get it all here, and be sure to opt-in first:
I know that a lot of my blog readers are interested in passive income, and many of them are already building (or living off) passive income streams. Some people, however, complain about being stuck because they don’t know where to start. One issue that comes up is: Where do I even begin?
I get it. There are so many ways to generate streams of income, especially online, that it feels like you’re swimming in a huge pool of possibilities. Should you start with ebooks? Build a website? Create an online course? Make an app?
Even if you somehow make a choice and get started, you might doubt if you’ve made the right choice, and you might get distracted from it and not finish. That happens to a lot of people. Confusion sets in. They get derailed.
Furthermore, what if you don’t have the skills to do anything promising yet?
As Neo said, the problem is choice.
There are just too many possibilities. Too many different directions. And a lot of those directions could be dead ends for you.
Okay, that’s a real issue. It truly is. But we can solve this. We know it’s solvable because lots of people are already doing it. How did those people do it?
Here’s the secret you may not know. The people who succeed on this path have the same issues and concerns you do. They all had to face that same demon of a problem regarding where to get started. They can and do have doubts along the way,...
My coach, Jeff Walker, has a brilliant strategy that lets you launch and sell a product online before you’ve actually created it, even if you have no following or list to start with. He posted a free video to show you how to do it step by step. This video will only be accessible for a few days though, so please watch it now if you’re in the mood for an adventurous new way of thinking about life and business:
I used this strategy – and yes, I learned it from Jeff – to pre-launch Conscious Growth Club earlier this year. CGC is still being developed, and we have a ways to go before the full launch, but we’ve had almost 100 paying members in our club-in-progress since April. If you’d like to know how to successfully pre-launch something while it’s still in the idea phase, watch Jeff’s video, and he’ll explain how to do it.
You can use a similar strategy to launch an online product, such as a book or course, before you’ve actually created it. Artists and musicians are doing successful seed launches too. There are some key advantages to a seed launch, such as knowing whether an idea will sell before you do the work of implementing it. When your product or service is fully complete, you can launch again and have even more sales.
In this video Jeff will also share his launch stacking strategy, which you can use to string multiple launches...
A common problem many readers encounter when trying to build new income streams is how to get attention and drive traffic to their new product or service. You may write and self-publish a new ebook, for instance, but it won’t sell well if no one knows about it. So how do you turn your idea into a decent income stream, especially if you don’t have a following yet?
Fortunately there’s a reputable guy who can teach you how to handle the marketing and sales side of this challenge, and you can learn a lot from him for free in the next several days.
Jeff Walker is currently offering a free video training series to teach you how to do successful product launches. He offers these trainings once a year, and they’re only available for a short time (like 10 days or so).Jeff Walker and Product Launch Formula
Jeff is an Internet millionaire many times over, doing numerous multi-million dollar launches of his own. He’s a well-known teacher in this field. Almost a million people have watched his video series in previous years. He does live events too; I’ve been to two of his events so far.
I met Jeff in person last year in L.A., and I’ve been a member of his coaching group since October 2016, paying $12,000 for the privilege. That may sound like a lot, but I’ve already earned back more than 10x my investment by applying what I learned. It’s fair to say that Conscious Growth Club wouldn’t...
Do you ever feel you should be further along on your goals and projects, given how much time you’ve been spending in your workspace?
To enter a state of high productivity, we know that it’s important to avoid distractions and really concentrate deeply on a task or project. You want to enter the state that Cal Newport refers to as Deep Work, and it’s best if you can maintain this state for at least a few hours at a stretch. If you can do 3-5 sessions of deep work per week, you’ll often achieve stronger results than you would with 40+ hours of busywork. You’ve probably observed this pattern in your own life already. But of course the challenge is to enter this flow state consistently and to stick with it for extended periods.
The amount of time you spend working is irrelevant. It’s easy to find people semi-working for 30-60 hours per week without achieving meaningful results for their efforts. Pushing yourself to work longer hours is almost always counterproductive if you aren’t getting strong results from the time you’re already putting in.
When you work too many hours per week, you’ll almost inevitably get sucked into busywork that doesn’t move the needle forward. You’ll have that sinking feeling that weeks are passing by, but your results are lagging behind.
There are many possible solutions to this situation. One is to focus on your strengths and outsource everything else you can. Another is to use goals and deadlines to enforce better...
Jeff Walker shares a short video about a pattern he’s noticed: Highly successful business owners have a habit of investing in personal development.
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Did you know that 29% of the Great Barrier Reef’s coral died last year?
Imagine a forest about the size of Germany, and almost a third of it dies in one year. That’s essentially what happened in the ocean next to Australia. And it’s been happening all around the world.
Coral is very sensitive to global warming and starts dying when the surrounding water temperature increases beyond a certain point. It’s expected that most of the world’s coral will be gone within 30 years. Since so many fish depend on coral reefs, that would ultimately mean the collapse of a huge branch of our tree of life. And yes, we apes are responsible for this.
There’s a pretty powerful documentary about this called Chasing Coral, which just came out today. It’s from the same team that made Chasing Ice a few years ago. If you haven’t seen either, I’d recommend both. The footage can be emotional to watch – you may be surprised to find yourself crying – but ultimately I think it will inspire you more than it disempowers you.
Here’s a trailer for Chasing Coral.
What’s the single most useful thing you can do to be part of the solution? Switch to a plant-based diet if you haven’t already done so. Skip the flesh, and eat lighter and cleaner.
Unless you run a coal-fired power plant and can choose to shut it down overnight, or you’re making documentaries like these to raise awareness, nothing...
For the next 36 hours only, Ryan Eliason is sharing his entire training (4 videos, a webinar recording, and 4 PDF downloads) all on one page, and you don’t have to register or opt-in to get it. Tens of thousands of people recently took advantage of Ryan’s free training, and now he’s conveniently giving the whole thing away on one web page.
Here’s what’s on the All Access page:
Note that this page will only be available for the next 36 hours. Ryan is in the middle of a launch that ends tomorrow, and after Friday night, these materials will no longer be available for free. So download/watch them now while you can.
I also encourage you to check out Ryan’s complete Visionary Business School training program, which guides you through the process of creating an impactful, heart-centered business with several months of instruction and coaching. Ryan only runs this program once a year, and the 2017 enrollment period is only open for the next day and a half.
If you’re interested in building some online passive income streams so you can finally quit your boring job for good, a quality service to help you achieve that goal is Solo Build-It (SBI). They’re currently running a 33% off special from now through July 5th. That’s a great deal for the complete solution package they offer.
During this time the price of an annual SBI subscription is $197 (instead of $299), and SBI for WordPress is $97 (instead of $149).
SBI is an all-in-one service for starting an online business. It’s been very popular with StevePavlina.com readers because it combines tools, education, and social support into a single package. See my SBI review for details.
So many people have told me they credit SBI as the service that got them started on this path, so they could finally break free from any need for a regular job. Many eventually progress to other online income strategies once they get the hang of earning income this way, but it usually takes people a while to get the mindset and know-how to actually do it. I really think that SBI’s strength in this space is helping beginners get into action and start seeing results.
SBI has a 90-day money-back guarantee, so it’s easy to try it and see if it’s a good match for you. When you build something cool with it, please let me know about it. I enjoy hearing success stories. 🙂
Check it out here: SBI Independence Sale.
Do you ever feel like you’ve lost control of your life and that you’re spending too much time dealing with someone else’s agenda for you?
Last year I read an interesting book called The Revenge of Analog: Real Things and Why They Matter, which is about a resurgence in analog technologies such as vinyl records and camera film that were once thought to be obsolescent. Many people have found that doing everything digitally isn’t all it’s cracked up to be, and analog solutions still have some nice advantages. One of those advantages is that analog solutions can give people a greater feeling of control of the experience.
A print book doesn’t interrupt you with notifications about a new book you might like. An analog camera doesn’t distract you with a text message while you’re trying to take a photo. If you review your goals on index cards instead of your computer, you won’t see stock updates while looking at your goals.Is Software Interrupting You?
I’m very comfortable with technology since I was introduced to my first computer in 1981 and started learning to program that same year. I’ve been using email and the Internet since 1989, I know at least a dozen programming languages, and I’ve been generating income online since 1995. I have the latest iPhone, an Apple Watch, and plenty of other devices. I’ve been immersed in that world for decades.
I’ve notice an odd trend though.
When I was younger, I’d always run software according to my own timetable. I...