You're reading Why Enabling Someone Is Never A Loving Act, originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you're enjoying this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.When You Only Want To Help
Addiction is hard on everyone. If you watch your loved one continually abuse their body, you fear what they’re doing to their health. Abusing drugs and alcohol creates a potential for legal consequences and may interfere with your loved one’s ability to make a living. They make choices that cause unhealthy relationships and drain your bank account. When you see them make mistakes, your instinct is to protect your family from embarrassment and your loved one from pain. You want to help, but you end up making it comfortable for them to continue abusing their substance of choice.Blurred Lines
Enabling often starts with the best intentions. As habits and behavior patterns become ingrained, it can be hard to separate what actions are helping from the ones that shield loved ones from the consequences of their mistakes.
Enabling means doing something for another that they should do for themselves or stepping in to handle penalties meant for them. For a parent, if their child is arrested for drugs or alcohol, they feel a protective desire to safeguard their future. For a spouse, when their loved one causes arguments or makes a mess, it feels compassionate to protect relationships by covering up what happened.
You're reading How I Went From Insomniac to the Best Sleep of My Life, originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you're enjoying this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.
Sleep. Some of us can’t get enough of it, while others are in a love-hate relationship.
For many years after becoming an entrepreneur, I was the latter. Like every human, my mind and body needed sleep to function. The problem was, I had trouble actually falling asleep in the first place.
Now, I will say that there are variances of how one would define an insomniac. I wasn’t suffering from chronic insomnia that could do serious damage to my well-being. However, there were many periods when I would only get two to three hours of sleep during the week.
If mild and periodic insomnia is something you face, or even chronic insomnia, read on. As my work, relationships, and overall energy began to decline further, I took serious action to research and ‘self-experiment’ on fixing my insomnia for good.
I won’t bore you with the full journey, but rather give you the top 5 actionable tips that had the most impact in my sleep quality. Hope it brings you value.1. Choose your ideal sleep cycle
I had no idea that there were different sleep cycles you could experiment with. My entire life, I just assumed that people sleep 7-8 hours then remained awake for the rest of...
You're reading 11 Tips Presentation Anxiety Doesn’t Stand A Chance Against, originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you're enjoying this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.
It’s not just you. Presentation anxiety is a common feeling that comes from fear of public speaking, one of Americans' most common fears. It’s important to understand how to reduce and control these feelings before a presentation so your hard work doesn’t fall flat.
Whether for work or school, you want to deliver a great presentation. The eleven effective tips below are designed to put you in control and help you deliver with confidence before your next presentation.Map It Out In Advance
Mapping out each step of your presentation is a great way to kill uncertainty. Breaking down big jobs into small tasks is so helpful that Penn State crafted an online tutorial to walk you through the planning process from start to finish. The tutorial recommends focusing on your body content before crafting your introduction and closing statements.Nail Your Introduction
After you know what you are going to talk about, public speaking coach Ellen Finkelstein recommends hitting three main points in your introduction to grab your audience's attention:
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We live in a world where it is normal to settle for a lot less than we are capable of. And when you are the weird one that decides to set your mind on a vision so big you are too scared to say it out loud, then you definitely need these 7 things.1. Selective Hearing
There will be those who feel the need to tell you what they think, even though you did not ask for it. Choose not to hear them. there is a story of Vincent van Gogh being asked how he could expect to create great art when he only had one ear and he simply said - "I cannot hear you”. That may be the stance to take when people choose to tell you why they believe that your dream is too big and too crazy.2. A ready smile as you walk away
And if they are particularly persistent (usually family and friends), then you must have a ready smile as you graciously take yourself out of the room. I belong to a family who definitely feel the need to give me opinions when I do not want them and I used to get very annoyed about it but...
You're reading 5 Ways Mindfulness Can Relieve Your Chronic Pain, originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you're enjoying this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.
As scientists prove the many benefits of daily mindfulness practice, more Westerners are getting interested in meditation. A recent study found that 8 percent of Americans meditate on a regular basis. Although meditation is one of the most popular mindfulness practices, any exercise that forces a person to pay attention to the present moment could be considered mindfulness - other popular mindfulness techniques include yoga, journaling, and even long walks in nature. The benefits of all mindfulness exercises are the same: better sleep, increased vitality, reduced stress, and, believe it or not, less physical pain.Mindfulness: A Cure For Chronic Pain?
That's right, many chronic pain patients have found relief from years of suffering by practicing mindfulness on a consistent basis. It might seem odd that consciously sitting with our pain could reduce it over time, but hundreds of studies now prove daily mindfulness practice changes how the brain perceives pain.
If you're suffering from a chronic pain condition, you should consider practicing some form of mindfulness every day. Need more convincing? Well then, read the five reasons mindfulness can help relieve physical pain listed below. By the end of this...
You're reading 10 Things to Avoid Before Going to Bed, originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you're enjoying this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.
After working for the whole day, running from one place to another, handling boss and irritating colleagues, the only thing which can make your day is a good sleep. But good sleep doesn’t mean lying in bed for 9 hours and still feeling exhausted after waking up. A good sleep means that even after taking 6 hours of sleep, you should feel recharged again to work for the whole day.
Although there are many things which you can do to get a good, relaxing and deep sleep there are also many habits which you should never follow before going to bed and in this blog post, we will be looking at those 10 things which you should always avoid before going to bed.
A small glass of wine before going to bed sounds like a fascinating idea and it surely will help you to fall asleep but if you are concerned about the quality of sleep and then you should never consume any type of alcohol before going to bed.
2. Mobile Phone
Many studies have shown that using a mobile phone, tablet, e-reader or even watching television before going to bed can disrupt your sleeping. So, if you want to experience a deep sleep,...
This week I've compiled a list of a couple out of the box excursions, threw in a little fashion and of course, mentioned a couple of must reads! What inspired you this week? Leave a comment below for all to enjoy!
You're reading From the Experts: 6 Tips to Stay Motivated, Anytime, Anywhere., originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you're enjoying this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.
We all have our own moments of doubt, distress, and complete laziness. But what usually determines someone`s success or failure is your ability to stay motivated especially during their toughest times. I`ve worked on this topic for years and below are some of the things you can do to stay motivated.
1. Work Your Negative Thoughts Out
Tony Robbins was right when he said the difference between you and success is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself. These limiting beliefs are keeping you in doubt and the only way to stay motivated is by exposing them to journaling and expressive writing. Studies have found that those who completed four weekly journaling sessions for eight weeks were less worried and more motivated, than those who didn`t.
2. Remove Performance Barriers
Tim Ferris has a simple learning technique that works like magic. Whenever you`re about to learn a skill or do something new, take some time to list all your reasons to quit.
Your goal, after identifying these barriers, is to complete the first five sessions of whatever you want to practice. Why five? Because that`s what your brain needs to create wirings for new habits.
3. Do Less of The Things That Aren`t Aligned With...
You're reading How to Journal Your Way to a More Positive Life, originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you're enjoying this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.
Our minds can be our own worst enemy. We can so easily become our biggest critics, letting ourselves drown in negativity, and getting so low that we can't possibly see any light ahead.
When we get to these low points in our lives, it can seem endless, but all it takes is a shift in perspective and the determination for change. It's going to take active measures and commitment to invite positivity into your life and make it the most valued guest in your mind.
I find that journaling is a fantastic way to jumpstart this journey as it requires a healthy amount of introspection, planning, and reflection. These 5 journaling activities will challenge you to focus on the good and let go of the bad. Get ready to make way for a more positive life ahead!Write a thank you letter to the negativity in your life
In order to start your journey toward a more positive life, you must let go of the negative baggage dragging you down. A great way to do this is by writing thank you letters in your journal dedicated to these detractors.
Write letters to negative people, traumatizing experiences, or anything else that plagues your mind. Thank them for the lessons...
You're reading 5 Surprisingly Small Habits Research Shows Will Make You Happier, originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you're enjoying this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.
There are many ways to increase the 40% of your happiness that’s under your control. My research has shown that some methods involve quite a bit of time every day, and some methods don’t. I’m concentrating on the ones that don’t because I’m guessing that you’d adopt these quicker—and become happier quicker!
1) Good News: Only Once a Week Instead of Daily
Researchers at Harvard Medical School explain that gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish their good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships. Positive psychology studies show that gratitude is strongly associated with happiness. Gratitude expert Professor Robert Emmons says, “Gratitude is a turning of the mind. It’s not what I don’t have, rather it’s what I have already.”
Now many people suggest you write a list of list 5 things each day that make you grateful. The good news I have for you is that you don’t need to do this daily. Studies by Professor Sonja Lyubomirsky found that people who focused on gratitude daily benefitted less than those who did it once or twice a week. I recommend focusing on gratitude 1 day a week—finding 3 things each time. Be sure to vary the types of...
You're reading Trapped In a Bubble Trying to Fit In? This Might Help., originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you're enjoying this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.
It's so easy for us to focus on what's missing. On where we want to be. Where we should be at this point in our life. We are stripped from being grateful for what we have because we have been born into a society of more and too much is not enough. The simplicity of life suddenly becomes complex. The journey of life becomes a puzzle in which we have to scramble to find the right pieces to put together before time runs out.BUT WHO ARE WE REALLY?
We stare, compare, obsess, and become addicted to the idea of who we are by counting the things we have, the titles we hold, and the people we associate with. Never understanding that at any moment that bubble will burst. The heavier and more saturated the bubble gets, the bigger the risk. This bubble is growing outward and everything we identify with is outside of us. Not fully aware that the glue holding it all together doesn't hold forever. That glue is the control we think you have over these things. We buy the things, work for the titles, and adjust some of our beliefs to fit into these bubbles. This is the control we...
You're reading 7 Major New Year’s Eve Decisions for Your Best Year Yet, originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you're enjoying this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.
Each year’s end marks a new beginning in our lives. The celebration and global feeling of leaving the past behind help us find that right moment to start anew. Start a journal and begin with an entry listing the resolutions you have made for the following year. Something along the lines of, “This year ahead of me is the right time to start:A healthy diet
This must be the number one on everyone’s list. The only exceptions are those who have done this in the previous years and managed to stick to it. A healthy diet is, I grant you, a very important thing but not for the reasons most decide to have one. The key part of a healthy diet is health. Eating well will help you stay healthy and feel energized. The pace of our lives does not allow us to slack, so we need to invest our best in having the energy to seize the day and do things we care about.Exercising regularly
Physical activity is yet another important ingredient of a healthy lifestyle. They say that...
You're reading The Best Advice My Dad Ever Gave Me, originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you're enjoying this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.
I’ve always looked up to my dad. He’s a passionate entrepreneur, a great dad and one of those people, who, more often than not, knows the right thing to say. Over the years he has ‘gifted’ me with words of wisdom on everything from business to relationships, parenting to decision-making. There’s one piece of advice, however, that I probably rely on the most.
Do your best every day.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve called my father worried about something that happened, concerned about an outcome or second-guessing myself. And my dad predictably responds with a question. “Did you do your best?” Yes. “That’s all you can do”, he says “You can’t control what happens from here”.
That’s it? Simple, right? But if you really stop to think about it, this supposedly simple piece of advice has the power to help you be happier, more fulfilled and yes, even more successful. How?
You can rest at ease knowing you did everything you could. That you have no regrets and nothing about which to feel bad or guilty. If you do your best and then someone criticizes you, or...
You're reading How to be Motivated (almost) all the time using 1 Simple Habit, originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you're enjoying this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.
You’ve probably experienced this before:
You wake up in the morning and you're just not feeling it.
It’s not that you are particularly tired, or had a drink too many last night.
The day ahead just doesn’t seem very exciting.
Lying in bed you start reflecting:
You do everything you should be doing. Your job is interesting, your relationships are intact and fulfilling, you are in great health.
Logically you should wake up ready to move mountains.
Yet here you are, lying in bed dreading to get up and brush your teeth.
It’s a bit depressing isn’t it?
By now you might be thinking, “No one is motivated all the time. Sometimes you just need to be disciplined.”
Sure I agree with you. You can’t be motivated every second of your life.
But you definitely can experience motivation more consistently than the average person by using a better than average approach.
And I will show you in this article how to do just that using 1 simple habit.
If you do apply it motivation stops being such a hassle and becomes a reliable asset that is there for you when you need it.How you are unconsciously killing your motivation
If you are rarely motivated its because you are great at consistently...
You're reading The Real Reason You Don’t Achieve Your Goals (and One Easy Thing You Can Do About it), originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you're enjoying this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.
Do you ever feel like your goals are always out of reach?
It's like no matter how hard you try, you never get enough things done.
Like you’re stuck in a hamster wheel running and running, but you never get anywhere.
You think to yourself, "I can’t wait for the one day I catch up with everything so I can finally get started on what I've really been dying to work on," but the work keeps coming. At this point, you're just hoping one day, things will get better.
You probably have caught on by now how hard it is to achieve your goals let alone make the time to try and complete them. It doesn’t take long from going to the gym first few days to skipping out your first day because you're tired. Then you get started on the tub of ice cream later that night to comfort yourself from the feeling of failure yet again.
You’re not alone.
Fortunately, there is something surprisingly simple you can do to finally achieve your biggest goals.When It Comes to Achieving Your Goals, Inspiration is Never Enough
When you hear the underdog stories of people accomplishing some of the biggest successes, you can't help...
You're reading 6 Relationship Killers Every Couple Should Avoid, originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you're enjoying this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.
According to studies, most couples have their first divorce by the age of 30. These same studies suggest that most marriages don`t last more than eight years and that one of every two marriages in America ends in divorce.
These studies and surveys simply mean that our relationship management sucks. As a generation, we can no longer understand or tolerate each other. We live in our own heads and nobody taught us how to nurture close relationships or manage conflicts without ruining them.
For that, I`ve compiled you a list of the six deadliest relationship mistakes, according to John Gottman, relationship expert, and bestselling author of The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships.Mistake #1: Being caught up in your own bubble
This means you no longer pay attention to the emotional needs of the other person because you`re so caught up in your own life, that you no longer prioritize the relationship or stop to think about your partner`s needs.
According to Gottman, you have to stop every now and then and ask, 'What are my most important relationships, and what do I want from each of them?' Am I in it for the love and intimacy or am I in it...
You're reading 5 Ways to Keep Moving Forward When You’re Scared to Death, originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you're enjoying this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.
Fear is the most powerful factor that prevents you from being able to realize your full potential. Most often, it’s a result of your own thoughts and imagination, instead of actual real world causes. In other words, you’re afraid of a fantasy - something that doesn’t exist.
You may be going down an untrodden path, but don’t lose faith. Don’t listen to your fears and also of those around you. Don’t let your shortcomings and setbacks make their way into your present frame of mind. And most importantly, never give up on what matters to you.
It’s okay to feel a bit uncomfortable, a little confused. It’s totally fine if you don’t know what lies ahead or whether you can handle it. As long as you keep moving slowly and steadily, you’ll figure out what you need to know. As you get more and more involved in what you’re doing, you’ll lose track of your fears and realize that things are not as bad as you had imagined. In fact, they’re much better.
Here are 5 ways to steer your life around all the unnecessary fears and uncertainties in life, and keep moving forward.1. Envision what...
You're reading 9 Game-Changing Products to Improve the Quality of Your Life Today, originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you're enjoying this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.
Most of society chooses to purchase materialistic things that don't offer any tangible value to their lives. But like many things in life, certain products offer more rewards than others.
When it comes to improving our lifestyle, I believe that there are 3 major areas that have the most impact:
The good news is, these valuable products don't have to break the bank either. Here are 9 game-changing products that will improve the quality of your life.
Improve your sleep 1. iGOTHAM Bluelight Blocking Eyewear
The average person spends over 10 hours a day in front of our digital screens. This includes our phones, TV, and laptops. What is blue light you ask? Exposure to blue light leads to eye strain, disruption of our sleep cycle, and macular cellular damage.
iGOTHAM has designed stylish eyewear with premium blue light blocking lenses that block up to 100% of harmful blue light. Compared to normal eyewear, it blocks nearly 5x more blue light from entering into your eyes. Best of all, they look pretty stylish!
Ever find yourself sweating from heat or shivering in cold while you sleep? This...
You're reading 4 Ways to Eliminate the Fear of Failure, originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you're enjoying this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.
The fear of failure is something that all of us encounter at some point in our lives. Unfortunately, that is just the way we are programmed as humans.
On the other hand there are many different ways that you can help eliminate the fear of failure today, tomorrow and beyond.
It starts with one thing. You!
That might seem like an easy thing to do, but it isn’t. What I’ve done is broken down 4 of the Most important things you can do Today, that will help you eliminate the fear of failure.Clear Mindset toward Your Goals
Here is something that we might not think of as extremely important, but it is.
Think of it this way, the Fear of Failure is all psychology, we start thinking about the things that we want to achieve, then our minds start fighting back. That is just the way things work, and again how we are wired.
When you go into things thinking about one thing and one thing only, your Goals, then you are already taking a very crucial step into not being afraid to fail. Your goals must be very specific and most importantly attainable.
When you put these things together you are setting yourself up for success. Mindset is always the first...
You're reading 15 Quotes on Self-Love and Acceptance That Will Change Your Life, originally posted on Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement. If you're enjoying this, please visit our site for more inspirational articles.
Do you know that self-love can literally save your life?
It did for the famous entrepreneur and bestselling Author, Kamal Ravikant who was about to kill himself when he discovered a way out of depression through accepting and loving himself. Self-love has also given Khalil Rafati a way out and helped him move out from being a homeless crack addict to one of America`s most respected multimillionaires.
Self-love can help you regain confidence, express life fully and take a swing at setbacks or any major failure you may have suffered from. In other words, it will help you be calm, be collected, and be the solution to your own life. But only if you're motivated enough to do it.
For that, I`ve made you a list of 15 self-love quotes that you must read. Write them down or print them out and keep them in front of you always and forever. They can really change your life.
On what it means to have self-love“
1- Loving yourself…does not mean being self-absorbed or narcissistic, or disregarding others. Rather it means welcoming yourself as the most honored guest in your own heart, a guest worthy of respect, a lovable companion.” – Margot Anand
On being the only way to becoming authentic