The end of the year is a natural time for reflection of what was, appreciation for what is, and setting an intention for what will be. I like to think of it more as a good time to check our GPS to still ensure it is taking us to the correct destination.
Which is why every December we release our Free Goal Setting and Weekly Planning Workbooks. I am a big believer that these tools provide massive value, but given we are all about real results here at Live Your Legend, at the end of every year we offer a sale on our courses so that you can take ACTION to make 2018 the best year yet. Because to be inspired is one thing but if you don’t pair that inspiration with action, it doesn’t get you very far…. And we really do deeply care about every person doing more meaningful work, whatever that may mean to them.
So this December, for 3 days only, we are offering our biggest sale to date…
Access to all FOUR of Live Your Legend’s award winning courses for the price of one! We have never had an offer like this before.
In my opinion, living your legend is about living in alignment with wherever you are, alongside my two favorite words…. right now. Sometimes that means setting big and lofty goals, but I also understand that sometimes we need to take a step back before we can take another step forward.
The first year after Scott died, I coped by accomplishing a sh*t ton. There are definitely worse ways to cope, but it certainly wasn’t sustainable… So last December I brought on partners (who happened to be Scott’s friends) to help me run the business because I was running on half empty when I closed out 2016. I literally said the words aloud in my first partner meeting… “I feel 99.9% defeated.”
Yet this December I feel 100% alive and aligned, with even more to give. So how does that happen?
Well, if we don’t take the time to pause, notice and reflect upon where we are, it’s impossible to stay in alignment with where we are headed. I could have kept on going as I was; it was actually the logical thing to do! But I began to feel out of alignment and therefore didn’t feel like I was able to give the best of me to this community and to the people around me.
In a way, it didn’t make ‘sense’ to bring on partners because...
As some of you have heard, I am currently working on a book (much more on that to come!) and as a part of the research for that book, I began to go through all my journals over the past 2-3 years, so that I could put myself back in that place when writing about that time.
And while, I feel like I have always been someone who finds what is right rather than what is wrong, I have to admit, I was quite shocked to find that my first journal entry the day after Scott died began with the following words:
What I am grateful for…
…and proceeded to list off the things I could still be grateful for even though I had just experienced a tremendous loss. That is a practice I have kept up in my own way through the years – and I even recently was featured as an expert on building habits in Leo Babauta’s Habit Mastery Course because I did over time build up the habit of finding and feeling gratitude. But as with anything that is practiced enough, it eventually becomes your default rather than something you need to work for.
So that is why today, I want to reshare a post I wrote two...
In this video, I share some of my truths and insights around passion and purpose. These topics have been on my mind as I moved back to San Francisco and have been creating new daily routines.
It’s funny how such an innocent question, “What are you working on these days?” can create an existential crisis.
I share my own vulnerable answers in the video. I hope you like it.
Feel free to leave a comment below or email us at email@example.com with your unique challenges. If you are struggling, odds are others are facing the same challenges as well. Find your voice.
– Chelsea Dinsmore
P.S. You legends are the ones out there living and breathing this journey, so feel free to share your advice to this reader’s challenge as well. This is my personal experience, but our collective experience is far more powerful. Share in the comments below.
With all of the fires, floods, and hurricanes we’ve seen on the news lately, it’s possible this message of hope could be exactly what someone needs right now. I was recently featured on the Australian series True Life Stories. In the interview we talked about finding hope in the face of tragedy. I probably give the most detailed account of what happened on the mountain in 2015 that I’ve ever discussed publicly. And more importantly, we discuss how a focus on gratitude and abundance helped get me through it.
As promised, here’s the first reader response installment of Live Your Legend’s mailbag series. We receive a ton of mail asking for help, and we know that for every one message in the inbox, there are likely hundreds in the community struggling with the same issues.
The reality is, you aren’t alone. There are things that challenge all of us. But we all have the power to decide whether or not those challenges are going to inspire or stop us.
To recap, here was the email we received:
I need help. I’m desperate. I’m sitting at my desk right now writing this, feeling like my insides are going to explode or I ‘m just going to break into sobbing hysteria. I love this whole Live Your Legend thing… [but]…everyday I have the same exact battle…trying to force myself to focus on my job and do well…do my best. But it bores me to a level that I can’t even describe and It truly feels like it’s sucking the soul out of me and killing me. I can look at my path to here and see how It’s gotten worse and worse. I’m completely burnt out. I feel hopeless.
I don’t know what to do.
You can watch the video above, or see how I responded in writing:
First of all, thank you for writing in. I know it took courage to do so and I commend you for that.
I, by no means, have all the answers but would...
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I lay sprawled out on the sofa, gazing into the barren expanse above. My arm dangled off the edge. Below it rested an empty, one-liter bottle of vodka. The sound of a TV echoing in the background shielded me from an army of demons lingering at the gates. They waited for the inevitable: a single moment of stillness to storm into the emptiness of my soul.
The sun’s rays pierced through the pale, white shutters, disrupting my lifeless slumber. Awakened from my daze, I mustered a herculean effort to wrestle my feet onto the ground. Hunching over with both hands pressing against my skull, I saw the bottle of vodka glaring at me from the abyss—an excruciating reminder of the depths to which I had fallen.
As I looked up to get a glimpse of the outside world, the light stole my attention away from the noise, robbing me of my only comfort. A deafening roar of silence descended upon me. Exposed and vulnerable to the chaos...
One of my favorite things about being the Chief Inspiration Officer of Live Your Legend is to learn from and help people one-on-one. That’s why I love attending the LYL Local Events, like the ones I have attended in London, Perth, Tasmania, Melbourne, Sydney, and the Gold Coast this year.
Scott loved how one post or video at Live Your Legend could be shared around and help an infinite number of people for an indefinite amount of time (as we have seen since his passing given his Tedx Talk is now at over 9 million views!!!), but I love the connection I feel when I am able to help individuals with their specific situation. Because, for me, it brings such a realness to what we are doing here at LYL. I absolutely love to hear where and how people are feeling stuck, lost, inspired, uninspired, etc.
Because as people have shared things with me, I have seen patterns repeat themselves over and over. It’s almost as if the very same roadblocks are just wrapped up in different packages – those that we call our own unique stories and situations. Often we believe our situation is ‘different’ because, well, it gives us a reason to stay where we are. It justifies our situation, and our resulting behavior to that situation.
This is all done with innocence, of course. As it is likely not...
Every December, Scott would lock himself in a cabin in Lake Tahoe with a close group of friends. Those three or four days, along with epic fishing trips with his father, would determine most of the strategy for the next year at Live Your Legend. That small handful of days would drive the focus that would make all the difference.
Then it just became a matter of execution.
By the way, the above picture was taken at the Tahoe cabin during his last strategy session before the world tour.
Here’s an oldie but a goodie from Scott on the power of perfecting this idea 80/20 in multiple areas of your life.
We’ve all surely heard of the 80/20 Principle, or Pareto’s Law as it’s more formally known. It goes something like this:
80% of the results come from 20% of the effort.
It’s often thrown around in business as nothing more than a buzzword. Few actually do a full 80/20 analysis of their business and almost no one we know has likely applied the same to their life as a whole. The 80/20 Principle is the source material for what Tim Ferriss wrote in The 4-Hour Work Week. The time saved and gained will blow your mind.
The amazing thing is that the studies in this book show the principle working in just about every possible scenario. Of course it’s not always 80/20. Sometimes 90/10 or 95/5 or even 70/30. But the point is it works–without fail.
Richard Koch explains this ancient principle in a way...
We thought we’d keep it simple this week and share one of our favorite videos Scott ever put together. Enjoy!The 3 Simple (& Absolutely Required) Steps to Doing Work You Love
Remember, they’re not boxes you check, but practices you’re constantly building upon. That’s the fun part.
So, which of the three could use the most work right now?
What’s one (very simple) thing you can do this week? Or if you’re already rocking the framework, tell us how it’s helped.
Let us know in the comments.
Here’s to always getting a little better.
P.S. Just a heads up that pre-enrollment for our flagship course, How to Connect With Anyone, will be closing July 31st. That means on August 1st the price will increase to $397 in preparation for the September class launch. Get in now if you’re ready to upgrade your Average 5!
You may not know this, but our founder Scott Dinsmore was a huge fan of the StrengthsFinder 2.0 test. In fact, he mentions how much he loves the book and the test at the 3:58 mark of his amazing TED talk.
As a fun walk down memory lane and to see how powerful this stuff is, here were Scott’s Top 5 Strengths. See if they resonate with you.
People who are especially talented in the Achiever theme have a great deal of stamina and work hard. They take great satisfaction from being busy and productive.
People who are especially talented in the Positivity theme have an enthusiasm that is contagious. They are upbeat and can get others excited about what they are going to do.
People who are especially talented in the Maximizer theme focus on strengths as a way to stimulate personal and group excellence. They seek to transform something strong into something superb.
People who are especially talented in the Input theme have a craving to know more. Often they like to collect and archive all kinds of information.
People who are especially talented in the Discipline theme enjoy routine and structure. Their world is best described by the order they create.
Wow, that gives us chills with how well it described Scott. You can see how those strengths combined together to form such a powerhouse! His Top 5 strengths were in complete alignment with his mission of spreading the Live Your Legend message around the world! Truly...
So as I mentioned last week, a series of decisions came together to cause me to apply for a position to live and work in Italy for 2 months this summer.
My time in Italy is not necessarily glamorous. I am basically ‘the helper’ at the retreat I am working at. I am working in the kitchen (which I love!), but that also means I am washing dishes, sweeping floors, etc. – however, I could not be more excited about it!
We often tell ourselves we are entitled to a certain status because of our stage in life. But I don’t believe I am entitled to any certain status; I believe I am entitled to live my best life – however that looks! Because when we do the things we love, we simply cannot help but share that love with the people around us. I think we become a better everything – a better friend, person and citizen of the world.
As I was applying for the position, writing the first cover letter and resume I have written in almost 7 years, I was struck by how many decisions actually made me uniquely qualified for this! The position required someone with a passion for yoga, cooking and hosting, and potentially some help with social media. All things I had experience in because I had made some intentional decisions (that seemed somewhat crazy at the time)...
Decisions, decisions, decisions… how many of you have ever felt decision fatigue? Or felt a little stuck in the decision-making process? I sure know I have!
So earlier this year, when I attended a 5-day financial planning seminar where I heard from speakers such as George W. Bush, T. Boone Pickens, Peter Diamantis and Tony Robbins, aside from my head really hurting from all the discussions on investments, the economy and asset classes, I was surprised to find that one of the topics that kept coming up was how these incredibly successful leaders went about making decisions—many of which took place under tremendous pressure—such as 9/11, the 2008 stock market crash and being on the verge of bankruptcy.
Hearing those circumstances makes your decision seem a little less stressful, doesn’t it?!
Yet, there is no doubt that decision making can be tough—especially if and when you feel like you are making a decision between two evils. But true leaders, the people who stand out from the rest, are the ones who act and decide instead of crumble in the face of needing to make a decision. These are the people who thrive and survive no matter what chaos is happening around them.
So, while I still have a long way to go—today I’d like to share a decision-making process that I use when making tough decisions. I do this often (in both business...
I do my very best to practice what I preach, but I am by no means perfect… and today I share with you one of the many reasons why…
As Scott touched upon in the final post he wrote, he was seriously concerned about what he dubbed the “global connection crisis”—basically that today we are so “connected” that we are actually disconnected.
Given how important and timely a topic it was, I shared the idea of disconnecting in the video I filmed last October for the Global Memorial Meetup, as well as in the remarks I gave at Scott’s memorial service. And immediately after his passing I was practicing it diligently. I removed social media completely from my life for about 2 months.
Partially because it was very overwhelming to keep up with, but I also had a voice in the back of my head that said, “Chelsea, you cannot attach any importance to this.” I was receiving an influx of love and support...
As some of you know, last month I took the stage in Portland, Oregon and delivered a keynote speech at the World Domination Summit. In a previous post, I laid out how I prepared, but today it’s time to share the message I shared with that audience with all of you…Change Is the Only Constant
I’ve had people tell me over the last year, “you’re so strong,” but I really don’t see myself as any different than anyone else. I am not any stronger than any one of you, I’ve just worked really (really!) hard to learn how to navigate change and loss as a result of the cards I was dealt.
And given that we live in an ever-changing world, loss is inevitable for all of us… And I don’t only mean physical loss. All change is accompanied by loss, because in order for things to change, you must lose one thing before you gain another.
So, given that change and loss are bound to happen to every one of us, today I share a few of the ways that helped me deal with big changes alongside big challenges.
Because at some stage we will all come across...
How much of your life is spent trying to please others? How often do you sacrifice who you truly are to maintain a certain image or to fulfill an expectation others have of you? When was the last time you felt fully alive in your own skin? Or totally in alignment with your values and what really matters to you?
Sadly most of us spend a lot of energy, time and focus on pleasing others, doing what they expect of us, and as a result feel completely drained inside.
In fact the #1 regret of people on their deathbed, as captured by Bronnie Ware is: “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”
And we were no exception…
For more than ten years we ticked all the ‘normal’ boxes: graduated university, got married, bought a house, had kids, and chose respectable and stable jobs in Public Relations (Leah) and as a Police Officer (Naz).
But as we stepped out and ventured into discovering what our passions were and what truly lit us up (because we originally had no idea!), we bumped up against something so big and insidious...