I know you relate…
I check Instagram when I’m at cash registers. It’s gross. Gotta knock that off. I haven’t read a book in ages because I’m on my fucking phone. My phone is fucking my life. Fuck my phone. But I love my phone.
Work-life balance is a LIE. But I want it anyway.
I believe the esoteric good stuff, I’m all in.
I’m in real pain about the state of the world. I want to help. Not sure how.
I KNOW I’m amazing and bright. So I can’t believe that I’m STILL saying this, but I just want to be more of myself.
I do not doubt my power. But I have some other weird doubts I can’t shake…
Green washing is offensive to me — and most New Age marketing. Don’t waste my time. I love to pay for what I value.
I should journal more, it makes me feel better. Same with meditation. Give me a meditation and tell me exactly when to do it and I’ll do it. I want to.
You know, I just need to hang out in a cafe by myself, want to come? (Yes!) I’m obsessed with DIY sites, life-hacking shit. And Spotify.
Our society is addicted to productivity.
We think productivity increases our value as a human.
And we want to be valued and loved.
So…we become addicted to productivity.
being still is an act of courage.
Here’s a reframe on taking a break or slowing down: You are not weak, you’re not giving up or losing ambition, and you sure as hell aren’t lazy.
When you pause, you are rebellious and wise. Courageous. You’re synchronized with Mother Nature herself.
By going into savasana, stopping — especially at the eleventh hour — you will be challenging YOUR own notion of your value, and THEIR notion of your value. You have to rally strength to REPRIORITIZE AGAINST THE NORM, because collective insanity does not cheer on wellness and wisdom.
Sabbaticals. Extended holidays. 4-day work weeks. Shorter work days…all of these practices run counter to so many of our current addictions. The system is set up for us to rest after we’ve “made it”. Hustlers flaunt their vacation-loaded lifestyles and the message is clear: “I got money and I bought me some time with it.” When motivators talk about taking a break, it’s usually in the context of pausing so you can be more productive later — that’s the addiction disguised as
I’m in the middle of a grinding conversation with publishing collaborators: “If we do A, then B happens, so what if we do X instead?” Brows are furrowed. We’re workin’ this problem like a piece of gum. Silent pauses. We’re thinking…thinking. Arguing our points. It’s tense and kind of wonderful.
“Hey, by the way everyone,” I raise my hand for pause, “I just want you to know, I LOVE this shit. This is my idea of fun.” And on we plod.
I can respect the challenges because I know they’re part of my calling. I’m on my path, there will be problems, and complaining about the inevitable is a ridiculous waste of energy. I know that, and I mean this in the most pragmatically joyous sense, life is just one damn thing after another.
If you’re intentional about your choices you may as well approach obstacles as opportunities to get more creative, innovative, stronger, and closer to what you want and the people you want to be with. (If you’re not intentional about your choices then…then that’s a “real” problem. Fix that first and then come back and read this. I’m cheering you on.)
Love your problems — really love them, and the solutions appear.
Do you love the kind of problems that you have in your relationship? Like, can you love the fact that your “work” as a couple is to deepen intimacy? That’s some hard work. But can you honour that that’s your work...
Beautiful. Lighter. Team. Bliss. (…And one word that I always keep to myself.)
These are a prayer, a mantra, that I work with everyday — my Core Desired Feelings.
My Core Desired Feelings help me decide how I’ll take care of my body. They help me stay committed to meditating every morning. They remind me to text my girlfriends saucy jokes. They helped me completely rewrite my business manifesto. I had no idea that 10 years ago, when I casually wrote some “feeling words” next to my goals, it would turn into what it has: Desire Mapping for…a lot of people.
If I can support you
…in your clarity;
…in making your feelings the heart of the matter;
…in being of more service to the world;
…in making the changes that we as a society so very much want to be made…Then I will do that in all the ways I can.
So here’s The Desire Map preview bundle. It’s free. For you. AND your chosen people. I’m not up-selling you or launching a bigger product. It’s the New Year and this is what I have to give.
Each (free) Desire Map preview bundle comes with:
You can send the...
I know this lifetime is only a wooden structure
— struts and beams of longing and achieving.
I know beyond samsara and economics
there are colours I have never seen
that would send me into euphoria.
And over there, time is something we laugh at.
Like when my son said,
Remember when I thought if I
swallowed watermelon seeds they’d grow in my stomach?
And we laugh.
Ya, time, it never existed to begin with.
I know I’m living on multiple plains,
as a violet light ray, as a mechanic in Tibet,
and a stellar amoeba cleaning doubt from the atmosphere.
I am the Supreme God generating the original and eternal space.
I know that before there was The Word there was (and always will be) Space.
It is the canvas of reality and Light is the ink of our story.
I understand how Venus weaves Love into a generous geometry.
I worship her, so I know.
I get it.
But I’m holding on to here —
to music, and linen, and the white berries that grow by the lake.
I love how gravity holds me when I dance.
And when I decide to burn down this house and all the agreements in it,
I’m going to take rhythm, and the fruit...
You know how when you’re really messed up and you reach out to EVERY friend? You text them ALL at once in case the one person you really want to talk to isn’t responding IMMEDIATELY. And then you feel kind of dirty after because you got all frantic and spread your nuttiness around when really, you could have just connected with your one friend who tells you the truth every single time?
I think it works the same way with angels and cosmic guides.
I used to call on ALL of them. Simultaneously. Dear God, Goddess, Archangel Michael, Lakshmi, Saraswati, Metatron, Gabriel, Raphael, Saint Anthony, Mary Magdalene and Jesus Christ. (Take a deep inhale…) Buddha, Saint Germaine, and Durga. (Pause). And Kali. (How could I forget Goddess Kali?!) And Eva LeFay (she was my Yellow Lab, now in doggy heaven. A pet psychic told me that she would always be protecting me, so yep, I’d call on that dog.)
Pain and confusion can make you frantic. Unfortunately, frantic doesn’t do anything efficiently. It spills energy all over the place, it can’t see what’s right in front of it. One of the premises of...
You may have already heard my love story about how I came to meditation, finally. So now I’ll just go out on a limb and say: MEDITATION—or some form of contemplation or prayer—is ESSENTIAL for your sanity and fulfillment. And if you don’t dig it, then you probably haven’t found the right kind of meditation for you yet. It’s out there.
I invite you to meet the The Creation Space Meditation Kit. It’s a mosaic of practices. Think multi-faith, multiform Medicine. It’s a meditation and also a vivid visualization. With a mantra and an invocation. It’s all of these sacred practices, as one vibrant organism.
Curious? Have a listen here.Each Creation Space Meditation Kit includes:
• 10 and 20-minute audio versions of the creation meditation.
• Introduction + meditation theory (and cheerleading) audio from Danielle.
• Written formats and a meditation cue card (for you visual learners).
• Suggested essential oils + body postures to further open you up to the nourishment.
• Journal exercises
The Creation Space Meditation Kit is $25 USD, with $5 going to our charities fund!*
There are two ways to work with this light:
1. Buy one kit for yourself for $25
2. OR gift it forward and save: Get the...
I’ve tried to make The Desire Map into a video course on numerous occasions. We scrapped hours and hours of footage, more than once. (Ouch.) And then I took a year to concentrate on writing another book, and in the meanwhile, there are now about 200,000 copies of The Desire Map book in circulation. And that means I’ve gotten a boatload of requests for a video course from y’all who are visual learners (and multitaskers, and group leaders, and book club facilitators of all kinds).HERE IT IS! AN ONLINE VIDEO COURSE. WE DESIRE MAP TOGETHER.
I got together with Cody App to produce this and it’s beautifully and logically laid out. Every module is accompanied by printable worksheets. You can go through the course on your own, or with a group of friends. You can do it in a weekend, or you can meander with it over a few weeks. Your call.
I take you through five “lifestyle areas” (for example, Livelihood, Body + Wellness, Creativity…) and we make our way...
You know those people who say they’re not into a committed relationship? And then the right person comes along and boom boom…they’re soooo into it. That pretty much sums up my relationship with meditation. Meditation was my version of the “commitment-phobic then fell in love” story. And now, like all converts, I’m love-drunk and righteous.
I was in. I was out. I thought maybe I should just pray. Maybe I could get what I needed in the last five minutes of yoga class breathing in the savasana fumes. But after my year of New Age Girl rebellion and adamantly not meditating, my brain and heart felt thirsty and I was longing to get back into the sacred waters. Time to meditate.
Now when someone asks me, how I stay creative or healthy? I say: I meditate. What’s the best way to get unstuck in your life? Meditate. How do you know when to walk away? Meditate. Best piece of advice for someone just getting started in their career?…yup…Meditate.
I’m clearer, calmer, more creative, loving, and I hope, much more useful on the planet because I sit down most days of the week to give my mind a rinse and tap into my Soul. I’m committed.
With a full heart, I invite you to...
I’m a spiritual mutt. I’m a bit Catholic. Plenty Buddhist. A touch Sikh-Pagan-Tantric. A whole lot metaphysical. Organized religion never worked for me but neither did a lot of meditation practices. So I’ve done with my spiritual practice what I’ve done with most things in my life: I made it up, until it fit just right.
Some days, I work with prayer. My esoteric learning has me feeling at ease to invoke and evoke support from Higher Beings — from the Supreme God to my personal cosmic crew. And sometimes, I just riff on an old Hail Mary because it’s a comforting memory from growing up Catholic, and it’s my way of calling on the Divine Feminine that day. Hail Mary, Full of grace…
Some evenings I’ll silently chant a single mantra, 108 times. Most mornings I do some form of meditation-visualization…5 minutes, 60 minutes. Depends. Somedays devotion looks like 10km on a rowing machine, and with every stroke I incant power words…clarity, pull, stamina, pull, luminous, pull, love, pull. Works for me.
And that’s the point…creating a spiritual practice that WORKS FOR YOU. Because too heavy, joyless, overly strict, boring — those are not the ways to higher consciousness. I think enlightenment is mostly about figuring out who we are as...
Do less of what you don’t like to do, and more of what you love.
That’s it. Every self-help book ever written, mine included, can be summed up in that simple direction.
Less heavy, more Light. Less drama, more calm. Less “should”, more shine.
When you’re in your pleasure you think more clearly, you’re more efficient, you’re most certainly more creative, and you’re more loving. Your pleasure states are good for your immune system. Mmmhmm.
It can be really difficult to make pleasure a priority when we’ve got so many ingrained habits based on distraction (numbing out) and performance (pleasing others). For a lot of us, choosing pleasure would be a major life turn around. I get it.
So for inspiration I’ll say this: A WHOLE AND JUICY LIFE (not without its pain and trials, but still, so abundant and REAL). OR… a life half-lived. In grey. Trapped in Pleasantville. This is where pleasure defines your life on the planet. Choose it. Choose it in micro-bits and sweeping moves. But first, let’s imagine it and then go from there.
In the book Ask and It Is Given, Abraham-Hicks suggests a beautiful exercise whereby you envision your ideal twelve hours. I’m adding another layer to this, so that we envision an ideal “Home Day” (a slightly more down-to-earth scenario), and an ideal “Away...
I asked a few friends to test-run a meditation practice of mine and one of them said, “This was way more fun than what I ‘thought’ meditation was supposed to be.” Sweet yes. It’s not all stoic mind-decluttering. Meditation, especially when you bring in visualization, can be lush and sensual. In fact, that’s precisely the kind of energy that can make some meditation practices so healing and effective.
I’ve been working with a specific meditation this year that I credit with some deep healing. It’s called The Creation Space. It comes from my collaboration with a beloved friend, V.S., who is a highly skilled and devout spiritual practitioner. (V.S. prefers anonymity, so I’m the front person — just the singer for someone else’s mystical lyrics.)
Here’s the vibe: Emerald green flowing nutrients. Lavish healing. Gracefully forming and effortlessly growing. Luminous. The intention is to bring the supple and generous energy of creation into your being. The Creation Space Meditation helps you tap into that Divine Feminine principle that is eternally generating nourishment.
Physiologically, this meditation helps to vitalize your Central Nervous System (CNS) — the pathway that carries signals between your brain and your spinal cord. The...
Gratitude changes your brain chemistry. Proven. Happy brain chemicals mean that you’ve got more clarity and courage. Proven. There are zero downsides to making gratitude part of your wellness practice.
As with all “inner world” practices, we need to apply some intelligence to this. Because sometimes, that How-to or 7-Steps, or “I’m so thankful” process, can create even more illusions and stuckness.
This is an exercise in CONSCIOUS GRATITUDE. Smart gratitude. Discerning gratitude. We’re not going to sugarcoat the tough stuff and automatically say “There’s a gift in the pain.” Pain is only a gift if you do the emotional and mental work to transform the pain into power. That’s the discerning, conscientious part.
Conscious gratitude has been one of the most healing and creative practices in my life. It gets me out of my funk EVERY TIME. And it’s the source of a lot of my productivity. Conscious gratitude is incredibly empowering — it heals you, and it’s generative — it creates additional positive emotions.
The intention with this Free & Clear exercise is to transform gratitude from a sweet and moderately useful practice, to a life elixir. We’re going to get alchemical....
Heyyyy. Freedom Fighters. Actually, I don’t love the term “Fighter”. Maybe “Crusaders” is better. Or “Lovers”. Let’s go With Freedom Lovers…
Dear Freedom Lovers,
This week’s Free and Clear exercise could be a bit of a downer, especially on top of all of the tragic things happening on the planet. But we need to see the muck we’re in so we can resolve to find a way out of it. Or through it.
You’re going to look at what you want to change in your life. That typically implies dissatisfaction. Sometimes, it’s been a long term, exhausting dissatisfaction. Serious fugh-ness. Or maybe it’s something that side-swept you and now you need to clean up the wreckage. Doing this kind of work is the difference between suffering and relief, mediocrity and real pleasure. Looking at this stuff directly is how you go from stuck and befughled (new word) to…Free and Clear.
There’s a layer of psychological refinement that we’re adding to this. You’re going to look at what needs to change WITHOUT laying a guilt or judgement trip on yourself (or anyone else). You’re observing, not criticizing. Criticism clouds your clarity.
Sweet Seekers! (As in, fellow humans looking for lightness and direction-refinement…)
Sometimes the letting-go process feels really sexy and empowering. Burn it! Nix it! Bye! And sometimes, we want to hold on (grip, cuddle, cling) to things. What if I need it? If I polish it up, then can I keep it? But I worked so hard on this…
There are times to get amped up and “just let that shit go.” But letting go usually involves other people, or hopes that we’ve carried a long time, and letting go can be connected to our livelihood. If you’re a loving, mindful creature (which you are, because you’re reading this), then letting go is typically entangled with some considerations. Because you care — about others, and your mental health.
Whether you need to perform major surgery on your commitments, or you need to just blow some shit up and walk away. Healthy letting go requires mindfulness. So let’s really feel and think this through to get you free and clear.THIS EXERCISE…goes deeper.
This week we’re going to open a door that’s easy to miss when we want to clean out what’s holding us back. We’re going to examine what it FEELS like to let go of stuff. Not WHAT we’re getting rid of or changing,...
A beloved member of our team was at the concert in Las Vegas on October 1, 2017, at which a mass shooting claimed the lives of 59 people (including the terrorist shooter), and wounded nearly 500 others. Vic was not wounded by the bullets. She is resilient and brave-hearted, and it’s an honour to rally for her emotional healing.
Following are the various healing modalities and forms of support that we all have gathered in short order. We’re so moved by the outpouring of offerings of all kinds of healing and support for Vic. We’ve all been deeply affected in both challenging and life-affirming ways.
Team D offers this with love and deep faith in everyone’s capacity to transform pain into healing.
Power to the peaceful. xo
PRAYER and PERSPECTIVE
We focused our collective energy immediately. I sent out this email the morning after we heard the news:
This is prayer rally time. Today we all need to light candles. One for Vic, one for EVERYONE involved in the situation.
Take at least four+ minutes to stream very very gentle white light to Vic’s whole being. Stream it from your heart. Hold her nervous system in your healing energy. Pray for the trauma energy to stay fluid, not stuck. Use words like: gentle, loving, healing, grace, deeply held, safe, caring, and more healing healing. Send healing every time you hear about this, you think of Vic and the situation, or you look at that candle throughout the day.
Dear Seeker…and freedom and clarity.
Helloooo! It’s Danielle. I want to say straight up, creating this has been one of my favourite projections all year. Anything that is about clarity…anything that I can get out online in a “lite” way…I just love this kind of making and relating.
Can we just jump in?WEEK 1: RETROSPECTION
It’s amazing how easy it is to relinquish control of how we manage our time. It’s a deep issue. But we’re going to start with looking back at the last few months or year of your life. First, retrospection, to clear space to move forward.
As the keeper of your calendar you get to reflect on your “year” any time of the year, that you want. It doesn’t necessarily have to be the last week of December. It can be your birthday, Spring, Fall. THIS WEEK would be a good time. How about right now? (Nudgey nudge.) Right now would be a GREAT time. Let’s do it.
My sweet and always-determined friend Steph Corker laid this methodology on me when I needed to make a big pivot in my career. I had to make a decision that was going to affect the next few years of my creative focus. It was early Fall in the Western hemisphere. We were in a pub in Southern California after a business meeting had gone south. I was slightly confused but brimming with ideas. There was nowhere to...
I love to know what went wrong. On projects, in relationships, with my best-laid plans. (Then I analyse the sh*t out of it.) And I really love knowing what I did right… When I was in my heart, how our team got into formation, what choices were healthy.
I also have to know what FELT amazing, nourishing, and affirming, vs. what felt like I was forcing it to work. In other words, I love looking back. Not for too long and not with gross amounts of judgement. But to find clues to my next right step. To get…free and clear.
So…I’ve pulled together all of the questions and practices that I use to do a RE-SET.
FOR WHO? FOR YOU.
FREE and CLEAR works for sweet Souls feeling foggy about what they “really” want, as well as super-achievers who just need to take a deep breath, pause, and re-sync their ambitions. Re-set so you can start fresh. Clear your head so you can make some great plans.
These are all the things I do BEFORE I make plans or set goals –– all the things that I’ve been asking myself for years that have turned into planning habits.
FREE and CLEAR: A 6 week Guided Experience, is a set of 6 reflection worksheets that I’ll be posting once a week. I’m also including some suggested music playlists for you to get all introspective with. (Some Prince, some...
Show me how to love the ones that are like, really hard to love. The misogynists and boundary bullies, the fake leaders and land-rapers. Actually, for the sake of efficiency, just show me how to love the most greedy. That should cover it. (But while we’re at it, help me out with the Mean Girls, ‘cause like, whoa.)
Show me how to move my body through a time and space that is full of photoshopped illusions, exorbitant goals, and endocrine disruptors. Instead of wanting her to be any different or stronger, I suspect that you’ll tell me to shower my bodacious bod’ — every cell, and bronchial, and pore, and limb — with infinite gratitude for carrying me through gravity, sunrise after sunrise; for the ecstasy; for the endurance. On second thought, I can rescind this request for help. I think I’ve got it.
Show me how to surf my creativity like the most benevolent tsunami.
Help me do the hard work of tenderness.
This is in the realm of super magical powers, but I’d really love to know how to transmute all of the plastic that coats the Earth and chokes her oceans into some kind of restorative nutrient. Kinda of like how leaves...